Ten Types of Men To Stay Away From

Currently on the market? Good for you, girl! But make sure you read this post before rushing into a new relationship. Here are ten types of man that are not likely to make you happy, and from my point of view, it’s better to stay away from them as soon as they show one of these patterns.

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Born complainers

Nothing will ever be good enough for this man, you’ll always be too loud, too stupid, too happy…..Avoid him like you would the plague, you’ll never be good enough for him and he’ll just kill your self esteem.

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‘Damaged’ men

Who don’t want to be fixed. On your first date he’ll announce that he is not over his broken heart. On your tenth, you’ll realise that he isn’t just broken hearted; he enjoys it, and has made a solemn pact to never let anybody in again. His armour is so thick that you’ll never get through, so don’t waste your time trying.

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Guys that love sports more then you

Most guys will put a sport first at some point, but you know that he’ll be there for you if you need him. Guys who love sports too much, however, won’t care if the house is on fire or the babies crying, he’ll just want another beer and some “peace” to watch the match.

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Men who analyse you

He thinks he’s Freud, and analyses your every move, from the flavour of crisp you choose to what you watch on TV. He’ll sit with a smug smile, convinced that by labelling you he’ll be keeping you hooked. Soon he’ll be trying to “fix” you with his weird theories….bin him now.

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Pretty-Pretty boys

They will just leave you feeling ugly while he spends his time fixing his hair and acting more beautiful and delicate then you. Find a more masculine man, and leave him preening himself

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Mr. Im-Better-Then-Everyone

He won’t do you any favours either. He’ll never smile, or be happy for you, and if you spend long enough with him you’ll start to despise the human race too. Leave him to feel smugly better than anyone, and go meet someone amazing.

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Paranoid men

Something gave them the green eyed monster, and it’s just never gone away. He’ll presume your cheating, hate anything that makes you look good and constantly accuse you of flirting with others. He won’t be happy until he’s the only person in your life, so bail now.

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Men who just haven’t grown up

These men refuse to get a job, blame everyone else for their laziness and unhappiness, and are constantly outraged that they are not respected. If he hasn’t grown up by now, chances are he’ll never take any responsibility, so stay well clear.

Cheaters

Obviously, it doesn’t matter who this guy has waiting for him at home, if he sees somebody he likes, he’ll seduce them. Save yourself the heartache and live by the old saying, “Once a cheater, always a cheater”, because if it wasn’t true, wouldn’t somebody have proved it wrong by now?

Cruel men

The kind of man who gets off from the power of refusing to take you somewhere, or spend money on you, or any type of power at all. He won’t get better, and it’s not because he loves you. Walk away, as fast as you can

Why has divorce become normal?

In an ideal world, we would all be educated, successful, healthy and for those of us who choose it - happily married. What's more? We would all get it right the first time around. But sadly, in reality we live and learn as we go along. Earlier, women weren't given the luxury of choice when it came to marriage and were expected to stay with the man through hell or high water. Over the years though, parents as well as we, ourselves have become more practical and pragmatic in our approach to the institution. It is well preferred that once you tie the knot, you are one forever; but allowances are now made in case you've been too quick to judge compatibility and such. Hence, divorce rates have shown a significant increase in the last five years.

Why?

"I am going through a divorce right now, and it's only with my friends' support that I found the strength to go through it. My family is completely against my decision even though my husband was unfaithful throughout our marriage. I have made my peace with my decision because I know I did try to make it work," explains Avantika Joshi*, 25.



Besides infidelity, another big reason for the rise in numbers is because women are more now, and this gives them the financial independence to get out of a 'bad' marriage. "I simply got married for the wrong reasons. I was young and I thought that if I loved the man, it would all work out. Now I'm divorced and starting over at 26," sighs Sharmila Gupta*.



Reasons also include emotional or physical abuse and addictions like alcoholism and gambling. "In a bad marriage, especially an abusive one, the woman can now walk out without being judged by society or considered a failure just because her marriage failed," comments Chrisann Almeida- Creado, socio-psychologist. All marriages don't have to be messy. It can also be two adults mutually consenting that they are not compatible with each other. "I also feel that a couple must try harder if they have a child because at the end of the day, a child needs both parents. That being said, constant fighting and bickering is also damaging to a child's emotional development," adds Chrisann.

If you want to avoid it



In this mechanised generation, we want everything instantaneously. Hence, we are completely ill equipped at tolerating frustration because we are unable to handle delayed gratification. This means that small misunderstandings get blown up into huge fights, as we lack simple patience. Just the way you break a mobile and get a new one, you can now fight with a spouse and get a new one. Snap! Always try harder and remind yourselves that everything can't happen in an instant, especially with regard to relationships.



Keep these in mind before you say 'I do'

•Even though it is believed that opposites attract, it is like mindedness that sustains a long-term relationship. Both men and women should look for partners with the same values and ideologies or at least make sure that the differences are not to drastic.

•Don't marry just out of love because there is a lot more to a relationship than love.

•Look out for temperamental compatibility, which is the basic nature of your partner that should complement yours. If you put a practical and logical person together with a very emotionally dependent person, there is bound to be trouble later.

•Sexual compatibility is very important for a happy marriage.

Keep an eye out for long silences, passive aggressiveness and failure to communicate. These are signs of a relationship that will turn sour eventually.

•Any kind of abuse shouldn't be tolerated.

•If your partner is too controlling or too clingy and doesn't give you space, problems will arise later.

•Lastly, you have to be happy, be independent financially, physically and emotionally. Your happiness doesn't lie solely in your partner's hands.

What we really want on Valentine’s Day!

Are you counting down? Valentine’s Day is quickly approaching, and Head of Romance at Hallmark Cards, what we really want on Valentine’s Day.

We need some tips! Here reveals some romance tips which will make you top of the class come Valentine’s Day:

Gifts:



* A Valentine’s card, whether it’s cute, classy, traditional or tacky, is considered the most important item to receive on Valentine’s Day- don’t neglect such a simple touch! Upload photographs to one of our Personalized Valentine’s cards to make it extra special.



* A home-made gift shows thought, consideration and creativity- think along the lines of home-made muffins, a personalized photo frame (so they can frame your thoughtful personalized Valentine’s card of course!) or a delicious three course dinner for extra brownie points.

Messages:



* What you write in your personalized Valentine’s day card says way more about your relationship than what you buy.



* Personalized messages and private jokes show openness and the ability to be honest about your feelings, but remember to keep it clean as other people may well end up reading it!



* If you want to write a poem, avoid channeling your inner cheese and remember it doesn’t have to rhyme to be romantic – so just give it a go. If you want a hand our online Valentine ‘s Day range always have a couple of verse options to choose from.

Dates:



* Dream dates are all about personal touches and don’t just have to be about wining and dining, and splashing the cash!



* Personal grooming should be a given- but a bit of effort (a nice new shirt/haircut/new underwear) will not go unnoticed and get you extra brownie points boys and girls!



* A home-cooked meal, foot massage, bubble bath or even agreeing to watch the football/ Desperate Housewives are all activities that are easily achievable and just as effective as love hearts and roses.



* Why not create a personalized invitation for your date to make it really different?